“You are his girlfriend, not his ATM” – Lady lists things women should never give a man

A lady has sparked intense debate online after sharing a list of “things women should never give a man” in a relationship, warning fellow women against emotional, financial, and physical over-investment without commitment.

In the video, the lady stressed that women should never give a man shelter, describing it as “playing mother or landlord” to someone who is not a husband.

Lady list rules for dating without losing oneself

She also warned against giving “wife benefits” to a boyfriend, insisting that girlfriends are not “trial wives” and should not perform marital duties without a ring. According to her, doing so only encourages men to delay commitment.

She further advised women to protect their wombs by not having children outside marriage, avoid showing off men who are not proud to show them off, and never hand over the keys to their homes.

“Your privacy is your power,” she said, adding that giving a man unrestricted access to one’s space opens the door to control and manipulation.

The lady also cautioned against emotional dependence, introducing a man to family before his intentions are clear, being too sexually available, or always being on standby.

She concluded by warning women never to give a man their money, saying, “You are his partner, not his ATM.”

Her message, though applauded by some, drew heavy criticism from others who accused her of hypocrisy and overgeneralisation.

Social media reactions:

@kojo815: “I love all these new generation motivational experts. Knowing all these rules, where is the man you have used them on? Car wey dem use mouth drive no dey get accident.”

@hellscreamCG: “Why are there more women advising about relationships than men? Funny how it’s still women that demand most of these things.”

@Mr_Flow3: “Every day different girls with ring light setting standards. She fit dey man house dey do this content.”