Why I dumped my boyfriend on the morning I was supposed to meet his family – Lady

A relationship debate has erupted on social media after a young lady shared why she blocked her boyfriend on the morning she was meant to meet his family.

The lady, who posted on X (formerly Twitter), accused her boyfriend of trying to control her appearance ahead of a family dinner. Her post has since sparked thousands of reactions online.

“Send me a pic so I can approve”

According to her, the issue began when her boyfriend explained that his father was “traditional” and preferred modest dressing.

“My boyfriend said his dad was ‘traditional’ and I should dress more modestly when I met his family,” she wrote.

She said she agreed to wear something decent. However, she became uncomfortable after he sent specific instructions.

“He sent me examples. Long sleeves. High neckline. No makeup,” she stated.

The lady added that he told her, “you don’t need to look single in front of my cousins.”

When she asked what changes he would make to suit her family’s expectations, his reply shocked her.

“He said, ‘it’s different for men.’”

The situation escalated on the morning of the dinner when he allegedly sent her a message asking for final approval.

“The morning of the dinner, he texted: ‘send me a pic of the outfit first so I can approve.’”

By that point, she said she had made up her mind.

“By the time he hit send, I was already blocking him. He wanted a daughter-in-law audition. I’m not applying for a role in someone else’s patriarchy.”

Mixed reactions trail her decision

Her post quickly divided opinions, with some praising her for setting boundaries and others accusing her of overreacting.

A user identified as SassyTok argued that the man simply wanted her to be accepted by his family.

“It was important to him that you were accepted by his family. It wasn’t important to you. Good that you blocked him. He dodged a bullet. Go find someone who couldn’t care less about you or his family. I guarantee that won’t change,” the comment read.

Another user, Spring, described the boyfriend’s request as an early warning sign.

“Listen that first approval of your outfit? That’s not a request; it’s a preview of the next 40 years of your life being controlled,” Spring wrote.

“If you get on your knees before you even walk through the door, don’t you dare complain when you spend the rest of your life looking up from the floor.”

“You aren’t ‘earning respect’ by being obedient; you’re just showing them exactly how much sh*t you’re willing to eat. Stand up now, or stay down forever.”

Dr Ezad questioned the fairness of the argument, especially the boyfriend’s statement that “it’s different for men.”

“What did he mean by it’s different for men? He likely dressed conservatively as a default. Outside of workout clothing, or metal band shirts (was he a metalhead, and does he like bands like Cradle of Filth?) men don’t really have any outfit options that can be considered sexy, provocative or revealing,” he wrote.

Another commenter, Chukwualasu, suggested that both parties were better off apart.

“Who lost? Him? You? The separation was good for you two. You find who take you as you are and he gets a person that match him.”