“When he talks, I don’t…” – Lady shares strategy that kept her marriage strong for 5 years
A Nigerian lady has taken to social media to educate women on a strategy that helped sustain her marriage for five years.
According to her, the key lies in patience, timing, and knowing how to communicate effectively with your husband.
Staying Calm in Heated Moments
The lady revealed that one of the most important things she practiced in her marriage was not responding when her husband was upset or shouting.
She explained that this approach prevented conflicts from escalating and helped her maintain peace in the home.
She said her mother trained her to remain composed even in moments when she felt provoked.
“First, when my man talk I don’t talk. If he like let him shout on me… I will not do it. Why? Because I was trained properly because my mother trained me well. As a woman, when a man is talking — I mean your husband — you don’t talk back. Until una don marry, na when this post go begin to concern una.”
Choosing the Right Time to Communicate
She emphasized the importance of timing when discussing disagreements.
According to her, instead of arguing during a heated moment, women should wait for a calm or positive environment, such as when the husband is relaxed or enjoying a meal.
“See as a woman, most of your Celebrities, most of your people online that you love that are married… when their husband is talking they don’t talk. They don’t argue especially when they know that this man is angry. They find a better time, a perfect time to respond to their husband.”
Using Patience and Understanding
The lady advised women to approach communication tactfully, using positive moments to address issues.
She described preparing special meals or using intimate moments to gently bring up concerns, rather than confronting the husband angrily.
“Either when he’s happy, probably eating, you have already made a special meal for him because you want to communicate something to him. You want to tell him that this thing he did to you or said to you is wrong. You didn’t like it… At the moment you’ll say, ‘Baby, before anything, I want to talk to you about something,’ then communicate.”
Advice to Other Women
She advised women who are not yet married to take note of these lessons before entering serious relationships.
“If you can’t do these things I’m telling you, just hold on until you are really ready to settle down.”
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