“What is the gain of getting married as a man? — Man laments over marriage pressure
A man has stirred debate online after expressing frustration over the persistent pressure men face to get married, insisting that marriage offers little benefit to men.
The man shared his opinion in a viral video circulating on social media, where he openly questioned the value of marriage from a man’s perspective.
Man Questions Benefits of Marriage for Men
In the video, the man lamented the expectations placed on men before and after marriage. He argued that men are often required to struggle financially to meet marital obligations.
According to him, the process begins with a man working hard to earn money before seeking a woman’s hand in marriage.
He also complained about the cultural expectations that require men to appease the woman’s family and community.
The man further claimed that even after marriage, the financial burden remains on the husband. He said the man is expected to provide for the wife, her relatives, and also take care of his own family.
He added that aside from childbearing, he believes many women contribute little to the financial responsibilities of the home.
Part of his statement read: “Go and marry, go and marry, what is the gain of getting married as a man.”
“Na you go suffer make money, go s¥ffer look for woman, go still the beg the family and the village to allow you marry their daughter with your own hard earned money and she still come and destroy your peace of mind”.
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"Go and marry, go and marry, what is the gain of getting married as a man"
"Na you go suffer make money, go suffer look for woman, go still the beg the family and the village to allow you marry their daughter with your own hard earned money and she still come and destroy your… pic.twitter.com/JmPXFir7SR
— Heart Mattaz by Rita (@HeartMattaz) March 4, 2026
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
The video quickly attracted reactions from many social media users who shared different views on the subject.
A user identified as Roland said his experience with marriage had been positive despite initial fears.
He wrote: “About 15 years ago I was afraid having a girl friend not to talk of marriage. I am well financially but as the year goes by I started feeling lonely and started asking myself if I die now who will inherit. I got married and I never regretted it until today.”
Another user, Danito, advised men to prioritise their wellbeing while discussing financial responsibilities within families.
He wrote: “After you train children finish them go they share 15% for papa,85% for mama wey no spend shi shi….Men take care of yourself oo.”
Adigun, however, suggested that the problem may not be marriage itself but the choice of partner.
He wrote: “He is obviously pained sha…. nevertheless we still have good & decent ladies out there that’s what I believe because if you believe all of them are bad then you’ll end up not seeing the good and decent ones the problem is not marriage in itself it is who you choose to marry.”
Another user, Ovuemax, argued that marriage can sometimes disadvantage men, especially in certain legal systems abroad.
He wrote: “Marriage is actually not favorable for men if we are being logical, it’s even worse for the people in the western countries. The lady will end it anytime and you most start paying child support, even if she cheated and birth a bastard child, you still pay child support.”