UK-based Nigerian man shares marriage struggles, alleges financial exploitation
A Nigerian man living in the United Kingdom shares details of his troubled marriage, describing what he believes to be financial strain, emotional distance, and a breakdown in mutual understanding between him and his wife.
According to his account, he invested a significant portion of his life savings, reportedly close to £40,000, into their wedding and relocation plans, with the hope of building a stable future together abroad.
He explained that after bringing his wife to the UK, he took full responsibility for household expenses, including rent, utilities, food, and other living costs, to ease her transition and allow them to save collectively for the future.
He further stated that an agreement had initially been reached for his wife to contribute a portion of her earnings to joint savings.
However, tensions arose when he later discovered that the funds were not being saved as planned. Instead, he alleged that the money was being sent to family members and for other purposes without his knowledge.
The situation reportedly led to growing frustration, as he described struggling to manage financial responsibilities alone while feeling unsupported.
He also raised concerns about changes in their relationship dynamics, including communication issues and disagreements over expectations within the marriage.
His words …
“Reading that post sounded and smelled like the same one I’m in right now and I don’t know how to move on, the funny part is I built all my life around this woman, I had envision future goals with this woman and it’s hard for me to let go.
She’s a nurse also, used all my life savings almost £40k to marry her , the wedding and everything she never help, married her and one month later brought her to the Uk, thinking that we could have a life together.
Oh boy, I didn’t know I having a laugh, she changed completely, when she arrived I had to look for a 3 bedroom house so that we can have peace of mind so we can build and love each other and strength our bond.
I told her that, my name is on all the bills we have ie, rent, council tax, food, electricity, outings, holidays, internet, water, drinks, and even her phone bills so that she wouldn’t have to worry about using her money.
I suggested that when she gets paid, she should use 30% of her salary and put the 70% in our savings so that at least when we have kids we would have a safe cushion to lay on.
She agreed first, and I continuously paid all the bills for 3 years and I asked her how much she’s got , she told me never to ask her that and that she’s sent that money to her brother to expand her dead mother store!!
What! Are you taking a micky? I asked her. She said no. I later found out that anytime they pay her she sent £500 to a pastor she claimed will help succeed in the uk.
Brother whiles I pay bills I can’t afford, and struggling to pay them, and she will look at me go through stress and tell mel’ma man and a man should pay bills and I’m not the only paying bills in uk.
Sex became one of the problems, she choose when she want intimacy and award sex like a trophy when she thinks I’ve been a good boy.
She now insults me, when | talk to her about this.
Bro you’re not alone. But her time will come to an end soon.
Cheers mate !”
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