Not until I’m sure of marriage – Lady sets rule on introducing partners to parents
A social media user has sparked widespread debate after advising people to delay introducing their partners to their parents until marriage plans are certain.
The opinion, shared on X, formerly Twitter, quickly drew attention and triggered mixed reactions from users across the platform.
Social media post sparks debate
In her post, the lady explained her belief that meeting parents should only happen when a relationship is heading towards marriage.
She wrote: “I don’t think your parents should meet your partner till you know this is the person you actually want to settle down with & get married to. i’m so big on that. i can’t bring just ANYBODY to my parents.”
The statement immediately generated strong reactions, with many users sharing contrasting views based on culture, parenting, and relationship values.
Mixed reactions from netizens
Soyo argued that early parental awareness helps guide relationships and reflects responsible parenting.
He said: “Bad parenting won’t allow you people see the good in letting your parents know who you hang out with or date. Well as a parent, as long as you’re living under my roof/care. I have the right to know who my child is going out to see. You don’t have to bring them, I will go see them.”
Blaq supported the original post, citing cultural pressure around marriage in Nigeria.HThe e wrote: “100% agree! In Naija, once parents meet your partner, na automatic ‘when is the wedding?’ mode activated 😂. Better to wait till you’re sure about marriage to avoid unnecessary pressure and heartbreak for everyone involved. Wisdom!”
Firstus believed parental awareness often leads to more serious outcomes.
He said: “I think it is best they know who you are going out with, that alone instil fear and respect. Most of the time, that relationship ends in marriage.”
Josh questioned whether early introductions should always be viewed negatively.
He asked: “So when a guy takes you to his parents early, even without talking about marriage yet, it’s not a good enough sign?”
Xoxo added a different perspective, hinting at family involvement behind the scenes.
She said: “Some ladies na their mother dey give them format ,you go think na only you she done bring to meet her na lie ,her mother go play along.”
The discussion continues to trend as users debate cultural expectations, relationship boundaries, and the role of parents in modern dating.
