“Men in Nigeria don’t know how to hold an intellectual conversation” — Lady says
A Nigerian lady has criticised men for their lack of depth in conversations during the early stages of dating.
According to her, many men fail to engage in meaningful discussions and instead ask trivial questions such as “what’s your favourite colour?” or “what do your exes do?”
She shared her frustration on social media, stressing that she prefers intellectually stimulating exchanges. “Men in Nigeria don’t know how to hold an intellectual conversation,” she said.
Seeking a mental connection
The woman, who identifies as sapios3xual—a person attracted to intelligence—explained that she values mental compatibility over superficial topics.
“I don’t need that. I’m sapios3xual; challenge me,” she added. Her comments reflect a growing trend among Nigerian singles prioritising thoughtful, challenging interactions in romantic relationships.
She highlighted that intellectual engagement is as important as physical or emotional attraction, particularly in the early stages of a relationship.
Public reaction and debate
The statement has sparked a discussion online, with many agreeing that meaningful conversations are often lacking among young men in dating scenarios.
Others, however, argued that casual questions help break the ice and gradually build rapport.
Social media users are debating whether men should adjust their communication strategies to meet the expectations of intellectually inclined partners.
This debate has also shone a light on the evolving standards of dating in Nigeria, where intelligence and depth increasingly influence attraction.
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“Men in Nigeria don’t know how to hold an intellectual conversation. You’re meeting with your talking stage and the next thing he’s asking you is, what’s your fav Colour, what do your ex do? I don’t need that. I’m sapios3xual; challenge me.”
— Lady says. pic.twitter.com/PD3pjbl9vM
— 𝐀𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐲𝐆𝐑𝐍 (@AsakyGRN) March 13, 2026