Lady seeks advice as bride price dispute threatens wedding plans
A 28-year-old Nigerian woman has taken to social media to seek advice over a disagreement between her fiancé and her family regarding bride price, a situation now putting her planned marriage at risk.
The woman, who has a four-year-old child from a previous relationship, explained that she has been with her partner for four years and had believed he fully accepted her and her child.
However, tensions arose during marriage preparations when her parents requested a bride price of ₦2.5 million, citing the effort they invested in her education and upbringing.
According to her, her fiancé rejected the amount, arguing it was too high given her status as a single mother.
After negotiations, her family reduced the figure to ₦1.8 million, but he still declined, offering ₦800,000 as the maximum he was willing to pay.
The situation has left her emotionally distressed, as she expressed disappointment over his comments and the manner in which the issue was handled.
While her parents feel disrespected and insist the bride price reflects her value, her fiancé maintains his stance, creating a difficult position for her.
The post read …
“My people, I am in tears as I type this. I need your honest advice because my heart is heavy and I don’t know what to do anymore.
I am a 28 year old lady, a graduate, and I have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship. For the past four years, I have been dating a man who I thought was my God sent. He accepted my child like his own and has been supporting us. He is a successful businessman and very financially comfortable.
We recently started marriage plans. My parents, considering that they spent so much to send me to university despite the challenges of being a single mother and because I am also very beautiful, asked for a bride price of 2.5 million naira. To my greatest surprise, my fiancé said no. He said the amount is too high for a woman who already has a child for another man.
My parents were offended and I tried to convince them to reduce it to 1.8 million naira. Because they love me, they agreed to 1.8 million.
He is still refusing. He told me directly that the highest he can pay is 800,000 naira. He said I should be grateful he is even marrying me with my baggage.
I am heartbroken. This is a man who buys me expensive hair and takes me on trips, yet he is bargaining over my head like I am at the market. My parents are saying that if he truly values me and the education they gave me, he would not be acting this way. They feel he is looking down on our family.
My parents even made it clear to him that he should be happy he met me as a single mother, which is proof that I am fertile and can handle pressure, but he is still being stubborn.
Is it wrong for my parents to want a good bride price for their graduate daughter? My parents have struggled to send me to school, don’t they deserve to reap the fruits of their labor?
I love him, but the things he said to me have made me lose sleep. Should I cancel everything and move on, or should I beg my parents to accept the 800,000 naira? What should I do?”
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