“If I pay your bills, I’ll control you” – Man sparks relationship debates online
A Nigerian man has sparked intense debate online after stating that a man who financially provides for his woman has the right to control her lifestyle and personal choices.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter) by @ChukEricE, he claimed that men are becoming “too soft” in modern relationships.
In his words, he said:
“If I am taking care of you as a woman, paying your bills, and making sure every form of stress in your life is non-existent, I will control you.”
He went on to argue that women should not dress in ways their partners disapprove of, insist on personal privacy, or maintain certain friendships when a man is fully responsible for their finances.
According to him, boundaries are often misunderstood and wrongly labeled as insecurity.
The man further claimed that conversations around “red flags,” social media culture, and TikTok relationship advice have weakened men’s authority and confidence in relationships.
“I will check your phone because there is no privacy. If you have nothing to hide, there is nothing to hide. I will tell you the friends I don’t want you to keep, and if you don’t want to abide by my principles, nobody is forcing you to stay in the relationship,” he added.
He added that being serious in a relationship means total alignment with a man’s principles, and anyone uncomfortable with that should walk away.
The remarks have since triggered heated reactions online. While some men agreed with his stance, many women pushed back strongly.
One commentor wrote, “So because he pays bills, I have no privacy and no freedom?” Another said, “No amount of money should give someone the right to dictate how I live.”
Watch video below…
“If I’m taking care of you as a woman and paying all your bills, I have the right to control you. You can’t stop me from checking your phone, and I won’t allow you to wear revealing clothes.”
— Man says pic.twitter.com/RfbZ2Yd2og
— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) January 28, 2026
