“If i haven’t slept with her, i can’t take her seriously” — man sparks outrage with dating views

A man has stirred reactions on social media after openly sharing his views on relationships, stating that he only begins to take a woman seriously after having sex with her.

Controversial stance on intimacy

In a post that has since gone viral, the man explained that his initial attraction to women is driven by physical desire rather than emotional connection.

“I only start loving and taking a woman seriously after sleeping with her. Until then, it’s just lust speaking through me,” he said.

He further noted that he prefers intimacy to happen early in the relationship, often within the first two weeks of meeting. According to him, delaying such intimacy reduces his interest in pursuing deeper conversations or emotional connection.

Preference for early connection

The man added that without physical intimacy, he finds it difficult to develop meaningful feelings.

“If I haven’t seen you naked, I can’t develop feelings for you beyond ‘hello’ and ‘how was your day,’” he said, suggesting that prolonged delays often signal a lack of seriousness to him.

He also stated that he tends to withdraw communication when he perceives that a woman is intentionally delaying intimacy as a strategy to secure commitment.

Mixed reactions online

The comments have generated widespread debate, with some social media users criticising his views as transactional and dismissive of emotional bonding, while others argued that individuals are entitled to their personal preferences in relationships.

The discussion has once again highlighted differing expectations around dating, intimacy, and commitment among young Nigerians, as conversations continue to evolve in the digital age.

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