“I turned my cheek to him” — Lady recounts unexpected first date experience
A post shared by a lady on X, formerly known as Twitter, has stirred fresh conversations about consent, boundaries, and personal safety during first dates.
The lady narrated how what was meant to be a simple first meeting at a shopping mall turned uncomfortable after the man repeatedly ignored her refusal.
According to her, the situation escalated quickly during a normal conversation.
Lady Recounts First Date Incident
She wrote, “I went on a first date recently and while having a conversation with this man he grabbed me and tried to kiss me.”
Explaining her reaction, she added, “I turned my cheek to him, not because I wasn’t interested or attracted to him, but because I don’t know who this man is.”
She further stated, “And I didn’t feel safe making out with someone I just met in a mall.”
According to the post, the man questioned her decision, asking, “what you didn’t want to kiss me?”
She said she replied clearly, “no, I don’t really know you and I’m not comfortable with that.”
Despite this, she claimed his response was dismissive. “He said, ‘oh well it’s basically already happened,’ and proceeded to try and kiss me again,” she wrote.
She explained that she pulled away once more and told him, “I would prefer to wait and just talk right now.”
However, she said the behaviour continued. “The conversation started back up and 2 minutes later he was attempting to kiss me again,” she added.
At that point, she decided to leave. “I then said I had to go,” she wrote.
She concluded her post firmly, stating, “If I have to say no more than once, I’m already not interested.”
Public Reactions Trail the Post
The post sparked strong reactions from users who praised her stance and criticised the man’s actions.
TeeBag wrote, “People should learn to respect other people’s boundaries and this is an area most of us men have failed in.”
Davian commented, “Saying ‘no’ more than once isn’t negotiation, it’s clear communication that must be respected.”
Esperanza wrote, “If ‘no’ isn’t respected the first time, there shouldn’t be a second chance.”
She added, “Trust your gut, if they won’t listen to your boundaries on day one, they aren’t the one. You deserve safety and respect, always. Proud of you for walking away.”
Fein stated, “If someone can’t respect a single ‘no,’ it’s already over. You don’t owe anyone more chances when your boundaries are clear.”
Alice added, “You handled that perfectly. Repeatedly ignoring your no is a huge red flag. Consent isn’t confusion, and discomfort is reason enough to leave.”
