“I have been married for 14 years, we have 3 kids but none of them belongs to me” – Man shares heartbreaking story, seeks help

A man has opened up about the current state of his marriage after being together for 14 years with 3 kids.

In a heartfelt post shared on social media, he candidly expressed that he is not the biological father of the three boys his wife gave birth to.

Seeking guidance and support, the man reached out to the online community, hoping to find advice on how to rebuild his marriage and determine the best course of action moving forward.

The man statement was shared through a social media user identified as ABODE, the statement reads: “I have been married for 14 YEARS and ‘we’ have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me. 5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road.”


“I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died. I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can’t have children.”

“I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident. In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process.”

“I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me. 6 years into our marriage, my wife got pregnant and had ‘our’ first child. To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn’t the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine.”


“I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.”


“My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don’t know.”


“I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about the situation. I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home. What should I do!?”