Relationship coach Lara Kudayisi who got into the trends list after disclosing that she’s had 15 abortions and got dumped 7 days after the last one, has said that she no longer harbour any anger or hurt anymore against men who made her go through the process.
Lara disclosed this in an interview with Punch. The relationship coach who is now a single mother said she shared her story so others can learn from it.
She also said that the stigmatization she’s faced since she shared her story doesn’t matter because she is no longer the person that did those abortions.
“All those things do not matter to me because I know what I am doing and I have healed. It does not define me because it is my past. I am no longer the person that did those abortions. So, criticisms about my past life do not get to me.
“One does not need to go to people to find closure. That is what I teach people in the therapy program I run. Closure is what you get by yourself. I have gone through years of therapy and I have got closure with all the men I was involved with. That helped me to heal and be able to talk about my story. I do not harbour any anger or hurt anymore and it is all part of my journey.”
On if her marriage crashed because of the abortions she had in the past, Lara said;
“I went public with my abortion story even before I got married. My ex-husband met me sharing my abortion story, which was what attracted him to me. My marriage had nothing to do with my past and this was the inspiration behind my book, ‘Why the Matchmaker’s Marriage Failed’.”
Lara also revealed that she would be remarrying soon and have no trust issues due to her past. She added;
“I trust men a lot and I will be remarrying soon. What makes one not to trust men after heartbreak is because one has not healed. One has to pursue healing because it is very important. When one has healed, the kind of people one will attract and have a relationship with will be very different, and there will be nothing to fear anymore. Therapy is a life saver but a lot of people do not know that.”