“I am 39 and still unmarried; now the only men coming want me as a second wife” — Woman cries out
A 39-year-old woman has sparked emotional reactions online after publicly expressing her frustration and fears about approaching 40 without being married, revealing that recent marriage proposals she receives are from men seeking a second wife.
Woman opens up about pressure and loneliness
In a viral video shared on social media, the woman appealed to Nigerians for advice and support, explaining that societal expectations and family pressure have intensified as she nears her 40th birthday.
She said the situation has left her feeling anxious about her future and uncertain about her chances of finding a partner who wants a monogamous marriage.
She said, “Nigerians, come and help me. I am 39 years old and I am still unmarried. I am getting old, and now all the men coming to ask for my hand in marriage are all asking me to be their second wife.”
Reactions trail familiar societal debate
Her emotional plea has since triggered widespread conversations online, with many women sharing similar experiences of facing increasing pressure to marry before a certain age.
Others advised her to prioritise personal happiness over societal timelines, noting that marriage should not be entered into out of fear or desperation.
In a follow-up statement, she added, “I am turning 40 next year, and it feels like time is running out. I always hoped to marry as a first wife and build my own family, but now I don’t know what decision to make anymore.”
Discussions around age, marriage, and polygamy have surfaced repeatedly in Nigeria, particularly as more women delay marriage to pursue education and careers, often facing criticism or pity from society.
Watch the video below…
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— Gossip Mill Nigeria (@GossipMillNaija) March 27, 2026