“Having a man around slows you down” — Lady warns young women about comfort in relationships

Grateful OgunjebeFeb 13, 2026

A woman has shared a candid insight into how having a man around can inadvertently slow down a woman’s personal and professional growth.

In the video, she explains that the presence of a partner often brings a sense of comfort and security that can make women less driven to pursue their own goals.

“Having a man around literally slows you down as a woman. It begins like, ‘Oh my man is here, he can take care of all this,’” she says, highlighting how dependence on a partner can create a false sense of ease.

Balancing relationships and independence

Speaking from personal experience, the woman reflected on times when she relied on men for financial or emotional support versus periods when she was fully self-reliant.

She points out that comfort from a partner can sometimes lead women to postpone career ambitions or personal achievements.

“You continue waiting for the man when in fact you could have done it for yourself,” she adds.

The video also touches on how easy it is to fall into the routine of relying on a partner for small conveniences, which cumulatively affects long-term independence.

Why self-reliance is key for growth

Her advice to young women is clear: avoid letting a relationship become a comfort zone that stunts ambition.

“I don’t recommend having a man around 24/7 if you want to actually have a career for yourself,” she urges, encouraging women to stay proactive, self-reliant, and focused on their personal growth.

Watch the video below…