“Get pregnant first, then I’ll marry you” — Lady issues warning to women over fertility check
A controversial post shared by a lady on X, formerly Twitter, has sparked intense reactions after she warned women against a troubling marriage demand.
The post highlighted a situation where a man asked his partner to get pregnant first to prove her “fertility” before marriage.
Viral Warning Triggers Online Debate
In her post, the woman strongly cautioned others not to agree to such arrangements unless they were prepared for the possibility of becoming single mothers.
She described the demand as dangerous and emotionally manipulative, urging women to prioritise their safety, dignity, and future.
Public Reactions
Fein wrote: “Most times it doesn’t end well. This line is pure manipulation dressed as ‘culture’ or ‘family expectations.’
“Anyone serious about you won’t gamble your future, your body or your stability just to prove commitment. Marriage is about responsibility and protection, not testing you like you are some project.”
Spring wrote: “Are you fcking kidding me? This isn’t a marriage proposal; it’s a lvestock inspection. This whole family sounds like a pack of b*stards who think women are just walking incubators.
“It’s dsgusting. These mn-children and their toxic parents want a ‘guarantee’ before they show any rspect. They want to test the ‘product’ before they sign the lease. If you fall for this, you’re not joining a family; you’re entering a fcking slaughterhouse.
“Run. If they don’t value you as a hman being before a bby, they never will. You’ll just be a broken tool the second you stop being ‘useful’ to them.
“Any man who lets his family treat you like a breeding animal doesn’t have a spine—he has a leash. Don’t be the one who ends up as a single mom while these cr*eps look for their next victim. Period.”
Rahul wrote: “That’s not tradition. That’s risk management for him, not commitment to you. If marriage is conditional on pregnancy, protection, responsibility, and security will be conditional too. Don’t gamble your body, future, and child on a promise that hasn’t even started.”
Soulscent wrote: “Treating you like a lab experiment for “fertility” is a massive red flag. If they don’t value you as a person before a pregnancy, they won’t value you after the birth. You are a partner, not livestock. Run, don’t walk, away from that entitlement!”
Concerns Over Culture and Consent
Many users said the demand reflects outdated beliefs that reduce women to their ability to bear children.
Others warned that such conditions often leave women vulnerable, especially when promises of marriage remain unfulfilled.
