“At 40 you’re still a girl” – Lady advises women to focus on money and independence, not marriage
A Nigerian lady has sparked reactions on social media after sharing her opinion about aging, relationships, and financial independence for women.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter) by @DAMIADENUGA, she encouraged women not to panic about getting older but instead focus on building their lives, careers, and friendships.
According to her, women should prioritize making money, developing hobbies, and maintaining a strong circle of friends rather than feeling pressured to settle down because of age.
In her words, she said:
“So this is what I think. For men, age might be a problem, but for a woman, make your money and have your own community. Keep your girls around, have your own life, have your hobbies and make enough money to take care of yourself.
Trust me, even at age 40 you’ll still be looking really chic. You’re just a girl. At 40, you’re a girl. At 50, you’re still a girl.”
The lady further claimed that financially independent women can still attract younger and attractive partners if they choose.
She added that when women build a comfortable life for themselves, they are often able to approach relationships with more confidence and freedom.
“As a matter of fact, if you make money, you can even marry someone younger, finer, six-pack, with money and everything.”
However, she argued that older men between 38 or 40 and above may struggle more in relationships, claiming that some women might only be interested in them for their money.
Her remarks have since generated widespread reactions online.
One user wrote, “That part about older men struggling is a bit fat lie.” Another added, “If you follow her advice, you’ll get old without a husband.”
Watch video below…
“Age might be a problem for men, but for women, make enough money and keep your girls around. Trust me, even at 40 or 50, you’re still a girl, you can choose any man you want.”
—Lady insists.
pic.twitter.com/jNsvfqlBMn— Dami’ Adenuga (@DAMIADENUGA) March 5, 2026