“As a first daughter from a struggling background, you have no business marrying for love” — Lady says
A woman has sparked online debate after urging first daughters from struggling families to prioritise financial security over love when choosing a spouse.
In a viral video shared on X, she stressed the responsibility first children bear in shaping their family’s future.
Lady advice first daughters to prioritise financial security over love
“As a first daughter from a struggling background, you have no business marrying for love. I didn’t say this to be nice, and I honestly don’t care if it makes you angry,” she said.
“If you are a first daughter and your family is struggling, marrying for love should not even be your priority. You should be chasing money. You should be focused on securing the bag. Think about it carefully. You have younger ones looking up to you. Then you go and marry a broke man. What exactly are you teaching them?”
Lady advice first sons to stay away from broke girls
She added that the same principle applies to first sons. “If you are a first son from a struggling family and you later make it in life, never settle for a hungry woman. Never marry a broke woman. You should marry someone financially stable, someone on your level. As a first son, you also have no business marrying poverty.”
Her message has sparked reactions across social media, with users praising her for being candid and others debating whether financial status should outweigh love in marriage decisions.
Many highlighted the pressure first children face to provide examples for their siblings, while some cautioned that emotional compatibility also matters.
The video continues to trend as discussions around family responsibility, love, and financial independence in marriage take centre stage online.
Watch the video below…
As a first daughter from a struggling background, you have no business marrying for love. As a first son from a struggling background and you later made it, never in your life settle for a hungry and broke girl." – Lady says pic.twitter.com/9a0dg3au3t
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) February 5, 2026
