“A side man will save your marriage” — Woman advises married women to cheat on their husbands

A Nigerian woman has sparked heated reactions online after a viral video captured her advising married women to consider having a “side man” to cope with neglect in their marriages.
The controversial statement, shared widely across social media platforms, has divided public opinion, with many condemning the message while others debated the issues she raised about emotional neglect in marriages.
Viral Video Triggers Debate
In the now-trending clip, the woman boldly declared: “A side man will save your marriage. Somebody say power. A side man will save your marriage. You think I’m lying? The man does not even give you attention. You know they see you.
They never ask you which colour of pant you wear for five years, for six years, for seven years, for eight years, for two years, for ten years.
Cobweb done full everywhere. A side man will massage all your back, all your waists, will help you massage your waists. You see that man wey you dey pray for?
You’re not going to pray for him again. You will not pray for him anymore. You see all this nonsense that people are writing in my DM? Go and get a side man. Go and get a side man.
What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Go and get a side man. Get a side man. The side man does not need to know that you are married.
Okay? So that they don’t blackmail you. But get a side man. Get a side man. A side man will keep you sane. A side man will help you save your sanity. Okay?
All these ones that you are going from one prayer house to the other. When you get a side man, a side man, you’re no go remember say them dey read Psalm 35 for enemies.
This one way you dey open fire for all the side cheats for Psalm 35. You no go remember. Go and get a side man. Some of you are in an open marriage.
Open it. Get a side man. Get a side man. Save yourself from all of this nonsense. Save yourself. Save yourself. Save yourself. Kotesiri is tired. I’m tired of hearing of your Dracula husband. Put red lipstick. Go carry side man. Y’all have a good day.”
Watch the video here…
“A side man will save your marriage”, TikTok feminist says as she continues to advise married women to go out and ch3at on their husbands. pic.twitter.com/ac64R8yqTR
— Black_Melanin🥰 (@itz_taser) March 19, 2026



